An illustration of using physical and mental actions showing two emotions:
LOVE |
HATRED |
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DEFINITION: deep affection, attachment, or devotion for another |
DEFINITION: to loathe or detest; to feel animosity toward |
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PHYSICAL SIGNALS: |
PHYSICAL SIGNALS: |
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Moving to get closer or touch |
Fists that shake |
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Smiling at nothing |
An intense, fevered stare |
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A beaming expression, glowing cheeks |
Clenched jaw, grinding teeth |
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Strong eye contact, very little blinking |
Rigid and defined forearm muscles |
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Focusing on the other’s best attributes |
Uttering dark, hurtful words meant to provoke |
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Taking large, deep, savoring breaths |
Stiff posture, square shoulders, a lurching walk |
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A yearning look |
Shoving, pushing, tripping |
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Licking one’s lips |
Bearing the teeth |
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Unconsciously parting the lips |
Fingers retracting, turning claw-like |
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A light, bouncing step |
Shouting, screaming, swearing |
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Throat clearing, swallowing |
Lunging at an enemy |
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A silly grin, laughing |
Spittle flying while yelling |
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Leaning against one another |
A red face and neck |
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Lying in the other’s lap |
Sweating |
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Using pet names or terms of endearment |
Visible vein throb |
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Mooning over photos or representations of a love interest |
A corded neck |
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Listening to and connecting with love songs |
Walking off, refusing to stay in another’s presence |
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Adopting a silly love-struck tone when communicating |
Switching shifts or altering a schedule to avoid an enemy |
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Nervous behaviors (fiddling with the hands, moistening one’s lips) |
Tightness in the face, skin stretched into a snarl |
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Flirtatious talk or nonstop talking |
An animalistic growl in the throat |
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Torso and feet pointing toward the loved one |
Flaring nostrils |
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Playful shoving and grabbing |
A grip that unintentionally crushes or breaks (snapping a pen, etc.) |
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Sharing secrets and desires |
A tense body, on the verge of springing |
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Affectionate touches (arm stroking, holding hands, kissing, hugging) |
Bullying, cyber trolling |
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Sitting together so the legs touch |
A mouth that curls with dislike, sneering |
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Putting an arm around someone’s shoulders |
Spitting at someone or in their direction |
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Realigning hobbies or interests to match the other’s |
Reaching out to throttle, hit, or cause pain |
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Hooking a hand in the other person’s belt or pocket |
Shoving people aside to reach the enemy |
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Ignoring or neglecting other friends to be with the significant other |
Angry tears |
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Writing notes or poetry to the other person |
Cursing, swearing |
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Offering gifts of time, value, or thoughtfulness |
A scathing tone |
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Talking to friends about the special person, asking for advice |
A shaking voice |
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Obsessively checking the phone to see if the love interest has called |
Using friends to help ostracize or bring the enemy low |
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Constant texting back and forth |
Initiating hateful gossip, setting the enemy up, starting rumors |
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Doodling hearts and names |
Wrenching an enemy’s arm to stop them from leaving |
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Dieting or working out in an effort to improve one’s appearance |
Acting on violent urges (throwing a chair, destroying property) |
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INTERNAL SENSATIONS: |
INTERNAL SENSATIONS: |
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A fluttering in the stomach, a feeling of emptiness |
Loud breaths, a heaving chest |
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A racing pulse |
Pain in the jaw from clenching or grinding teeth |
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The heart beating, banging, or hammering |
A pounding heartbeat |
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A hyper-awareness of the body |
Headache |
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Weak knees or legs |
Rising body temperature |
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A tingling or electrical jolt at accidental touches |
Strain or soreness from tense muscles |
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Getting tongue-tangled |
Roaring in the ears |
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MENTAL RESPONSES: |
MENTAL RESPONSES: |
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Euphoria, pleasure at touching and closeness |
A dark mood that no one can reach through or dispel |
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Appreciating the world and everything in it |
Rash decisions, impaired judgment |
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Losing track of time when with the other person |
Irrational thoughts, taking risks to get even |
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Mental fuzziness, distraction |
A desire to carry out a vendetta (via vandalism, theft, etc.) |
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Daydreaming |
Single-minded focus on how to destroy another |
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Losing awareness of surroundings when love interest is present |
Humiliation fantasies featuring the enemy |
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Seeking ways to make a loved one proud |
Actively wishing for harm or misfortune to happen to another |
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CUES OF ACUTE OR LONG-TERM LOVE: |
CUES OF ACUTE OR LONG-TERM HATRED: |
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Exchanging personal effects (clothing, jewelry, keys) |
An inability to enjoy positive things or happiness |
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Embracing the love interest’s friends as one’s own |
Difficulty eating and sleeping |
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Sharing finances and possessions |
Isolation |
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Enduring hardship to be with the love interest or make them happy |
Fixating on an enemy, stalking |
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Putting the other’s needs and desires first |
Deriving pleasure from violent fantasies involving an enemy |
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Intimacy |
Committing crimes against the enemy |
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Sharing hopes and dreams, becoming emotionally vulnerable |
Assault or murder |
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MAY ESCALATE TO: PEACEFULNESS, SATISFACTION, DESIRE, ADORATION |
MAY ESCALATE TO: PARANOIA, RAGE |
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CUES OF SUPPRESSED LOVE: |
CUES OF SUPPRESSED HATRED: |
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Flushed skin |
Clamping the teeth shut to contain hard words |
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A high-pitched voice |
Taking deep breaths to calm oneself |
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Nervous laughter or giggling |
Seeking out a distraction or diversion |
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Standing close yet not touching |
Leaving the situation or presence of an enemy |
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Darting glances |
Surrounding oneself with supportive friends |